Twinflame Separation Cycle

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Twinflame Separation Cycle


Perhaps you’ve experience some twin flame signs. If so, you’ve likely experienced the painful and frustrating “twin flame dance” in which you swing back and forth, connecting then withdrawing. This can be confusing to the twin flames if they do not understand the divine purpose of this separation cycle.


This cycle is necessary for a number of reasons. Here are eight:


(1) You Aren’t Ready

If either twin isn’t ready to unite, it is because you’re not supposed to be ready – it’s not the right time. Blaming the other twin means you are not ready yourself. Acceptance is needed. You need to become whole within yourself and not feel the need for your twin flame to fill the voids in your life or heart. It is important to take the time to fully understand this.

If you are looking to the other in order to feel love, it means you are not looking to yourself first. This void will only be reflected back to you by your twin flame. You can’t unite because there are gaps you must fill in yourself so that you can reflect wholeness back to one another and your split healed. If you were to join when
you are not whole, you would live in eternity with great pain.


(2) You Haven’t Reached Unconditional Love

You and your twin separate because you haven’t reached unconditional love and acceptance for yourself and your twin. It is difficult to not get caught up in your own views, emotions, ideals and ways of doing things – you may forget that your twin has his or her own views. It is ego that stands in the way. You just can’t seem to agree on anything. This is because you are both reaching the same conclusions from opposite angles. You must remember that you are a mirror: you are your twin’s counterpart, the opposite yet identical energy vibration.

The ego, though, is what causes you to feel that the other is doing things all wrong. You may think that if your twin loved me, then he/she would show it the way you are showing it. They would be giving you “quality time,” or giving you gifts, or showering you with words of affection, or connecting with you physically, or getting pleasure from doing things for you. You conclude that if your twin doesn’t express him/herself the same way as you, then he/she just doesn’t love you. You begin to regard them as thoughtless, self-centered, cold, cruel and heartless.

Due to ego or fear, one or both twins may act in ways which hurt the other. Acting out your fear of losing the other, “shutting down” when he/she doesn’t do what you think they should, turning the “dance” into a trivial power game, and trying to make the other “prove” his or her love can drive the person away. Consider that on some level, one or both of you realize that you are not ready to unite at that time. So, take your focus off the other person and look within. Rather than fretting and feeling rejected because he/she isn’t doing this, wasn’t doing that, hadn’t done the other – set aside your pride. It’s not about power, and it most certainly is not about fear, which leads to negative behavior.


(3) You Feel Threatened

Twin flames separate because at first the connection threatens all that they think they know about the way the world works. The first time you met, something happened. You knew this person even though you didn’t recognize them on a physical level. You feel such intense love, but you wonder how this can be so when you don’t know them. You conclude it’s just lust, but why is there that knowing feeling deep in your soul? You know your life has changed forever, you can just sense it, but you haven’t a clue why. You can’t stop thinking about this person, re-living your times together over and over again.

The love you feel for this person increases over time when you think logically it should fade. You can’t stop fantasizing about them. You’re distracted to the point that you cannot concentrate on anything else. Yet you’re frightened; afraid of losing this person somehow or scared that you have already lost them. Afraid because you don’t even know them and that it means you are crazy to feel such intensity.

So you run. You attempt to block it out and convince yourself it’s just lust. You know that it’s unhealthy to pine after someone, and so you try your hardest to forget all about him or her. But you can’t, you just can’t. Then you meet again and all those feelings flood back. All your hard work to tamp down and extinguish these feelings is undone. Add to this all the reflected fears, arguments and confusion, and it all becomes even more frightening. It just feels safer to run away and hope it all just disappears.

It’s understandable that fear is going to present itself in this situation. It’s a “fight or flight” situation and often twin flames run. This running is needed in order for them to have the distance to make sense of it all. It can take years, but, if you or your twin flame are “running”, then it is because this is part of your life path. You need to get the distance to make sense of your new reality.

This harks back to overcoming the ego. It takes time. Each twin must reprogram themselves to learn to live from soul consciousness rather than ego consciousness. It doesn’t come overnight. We have incarnated possibly hundreds of times, living in our egos. It is unrealistic to expect yourself or your twin to suddenly flick a switch and be back to living fully in soul consciousness.

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(4) You Reconnect for Reassurance

Your twin needs to know you are still there. He or she wants to test whether you still love him or her. He or she definitely loves you, but fears that it is just one-sided, that perhaps you’ve “gotten over” the relationship and moved on.


(5) You Reconnect to Heal One Another

Through the cycle of separation and connection, twin flames are destined to meet in the physical several times in order to heal each other. When a stage of healing within each individual is complete, they will meet again to connect and expand each other in loving energy. They then need to separate again to “process” the feelings and new information. You and your twin meet up to receive a challenge. Once you subconsciously know what the challenge is, you go your separate ways to achieve it. Once achieved, you receive that healing and go onto the next.


(6) You Must Balance Your Karma

We separate from our twin flames when we have individual karma to be balanced. Let’s consider karma for a moment. This cause and effect cycle created by us through our lifetimes must be balanced before we can unite with our twin flames. Before you incarnated into this lifetime, and any other lifetime, your soul made agreements with other souls to meet on the physical plane and learn lessons from each other. You may have hard, painful lessons, you may have wonderful, joyful lessons, but all will be helpful in the end. Know that eventually, even if you believe a situation to be negative, you will always learn a positive from it. All karma must be fulfilled by the individual twins before they can come back together again in unity.


(7) You Are Destined for Other Relationships

We may separate from our twin flames when we are destined to be in other relationships. By connecting with your twin flame, you will feel increased love in your soul as long as you are able to put ego aside. Often times you may marry a soul mate in order to share this increased love with them to help them awaken too. Perhaps you’re already in another relationship when you meet your twin flame. This relationship will help you to learn about love in order to prepare you for your twin flame. Either way, we learn from our soulmates and they learn from us.


(8) You Need to Focus on Your Own Awakening

Twin flames may separate so they aren’t distracted from their individual awakenings. If you were together all the time before reunion occurred, you would remain reflecting your own voids that you need to heal individually. You would not be able to balance your separate karma with others and would not have the yearning for each other as a catalyst to greater spiritual searching.

So, the cycle of separation and connection is necessary in order for each twin to fully heal, awaken and fulfill their respective mission to help humankind through knowledge and light. We must all accept the journey towards reunion as important as the union itself. To unite too quickly before we are ready will leave us unfulfilled and unhealed.

We must accept ourselves and our twin flames and not blame one another for not being ready now. It’s all part of the process. It’s all part of the path we agreed upon before birth. Accept your path and yourself, and it will all come to you in perfect time.

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